This dance has been around since the mythic Fall, but seems to be acute in times wherein folk can dump the unfiltered interior of their soul onto a fabric that traps and holds those thoughts fast – the Net. The complex dance I am referring to is of course between our unhealed wounds, our unintegrated scripts and patterns and our unconscious processes, which trigger reactive emotions, create judgment towards others and perpetuates a form of dualism.
It is true that there will be times when you find yourself condemning individuals we barely know, guided solely by our own preconceived notions. But why does this happen, and how can you make adjustments in your behaviour to rise above such tendencies?
To understand this intriguing dynamic, an exploration of the depths of your own self is necessary. Within each of individual lies a complexity of experiences, both joyful and painful, that shape perspective. Unresolved wounds from the past often remain hidden beneath layers of protective mechanisms. These wounds hold immense power, capable of influencing your thoughts, emotions, and behaviours without us consciously realising it.
When you encounter individuals who embody qualities or traits reminiscent of these unresolved wounds, a subconscious alarm is triggered within. Your own unhealed patterns and scripts project onto them, causing a surge of emotions that can manifest as anger, judgment, or resentment. Unknowingly reacting out of a deeply rooted need for self-preservation, this reaction may indeed be an attempt to shield yourself from further pain.
To break free from this cycle, it is crucial to embark on a journey of self-awareness and healing. By delving into your own vulnerabilities and nurturing self-compassion, you begin to unravel the threads that bind you to these reactive patterns. Through introspection and self-reflection, you can gain clarity about your own insecurities, fears, and unmet needs.
Recognising that your judgment of others is often misguided projections can become a pivotal turning point. To make adjustments in your behaviour, you must challenge the validity of your assumptions and prejudices. You have the freedom to choose to suspend judgment and approach unfamiliar individuals with empathy and an open mind. Moreover, cultivating self-awareness empowers you to recognise the triggers as they arise. When confronted with the impulse to condemn another based on limited knowledge, you can pause and take a breath.
Striving to understand the complexities of someone’s journey before casting judgment is an act of growth and humility. After all the triggers you experience when encountering others stem from your own unhealed patterns and unintegrated scripts. By addressing your own inner healing, you can break free from the cycle of condemnation and foster a more compassionate and understanding world for yourself and others and to end the perpetual Wheel of division and strife.
