Unwanted attention, violation of your boundaries, unprovoked aggressive actions or inappropriate physical/ emotional or mental experiences are paths often filled with darkness, tangled emotions, and shattered pieces of one’s being. But within this raw and vulnerable experience lies the strength to mend, the resilience to overcome, and the process of owning your own power.
Without excusing or rationalising the experience, healing starts with acknowledging the pain, allowing yourself to feel the rawness of the wound. It is in this vulnerability that the process begins, as the heart opens up to the truth of what has transpired. Amidst the anger, the confusion, and the hurt, there exists a glimmer of hope, a spark of resilience waiting to be ignited. It takes courage to confront the memories or experiences and to face the demons that haunt the mind. Healing involves embracing the darkness within, not to dwell in it, but to acknowledge its presence and to release its hold.
Forgiveness, though daunting, can also carve a pathway towards healing. It is not about pardoning the perpetrator or invalidating one’s own pain, but rather about liberating oneself from the shackles of bitterness and resentment. Forgiveness is a gift of freedom, a choice to reclaim personal power and to honour your own healing journey.
But healing is not linear; it is a winding road with twists and turns, ups and downs. There may be times when the wounds reopen, triggering waves of anguish. But with each setback, there is an opportunity for growth and further understanding. It is a process of reclaiming one’s voice, one’s agency, and one’s sense of self. It is a journey towards rediscovering wholeness, embracing vulnerability, and forging a new narrative, remembering that each ‘scar’ becomes a testament to resilience, a marker of a spirit unwilling to be defeated.
So, to all those who have been violated, may you find solace in knowing that healing is within your reach. You are not defined by what has happened to you, but rather by the strength and courage with which you rise above it. May you find healing, peace, and the restoration of your indomitable spirit.
Art by Shelley Klammer
Reflection on Mars in Virgo opposite Saturn in Pisces