The responsibility for ‘showing’ up is something that not every soul truly understands and is a source of frustration for many who have ‘awakened’ to the deeper potentiality that lies within their psyche. Yes, it is an exercise of acceptance, compassion and patience as you are called to ‘meet’ someone where they are at, but it is also an exercise of recognising ‘why’ you feel those prickly reactions, as you explore the themes of expectation, entitlement, judgement and disappointment.
Whilst this process is not exclusive to romantic liaisons, it is particularly keen for those who are engaged in deep work, working through countless layers of ‘stuff’ as they earnestly seek to free themselves from ancestral, personal and familiar scripts, patterns and binds. It is indeed true that the external world mirrors our inner self, and that can be a source of profound disappointment when you encounter someone that you have a deep, irrational, knowing-connection and they do not show up. Does that mean that there exists within you a reluctance to participate? Does that mean that the timing is truly not apt for this sort of connection? Does that mean you are to be eternally single? Or does that mean that you have not ‘done your work properly’?
The list is much more extensive but in short it affords you the opportunity to recognise the past in the current and to make conscious choices as to what are you prepared to accept as a truth within the bonds of intimate connections that you are now forging. Pain always accompanies love. There is no hiding from it. If you truly love, you will be hurt. You cannot escape that experience. Loss is part of life and to love is to lose something or someone. There will be a time when you have to say farewell, when someone you love births on. There is a time when you let go your child into the world and hopefully, the arms of someone else. There is a time wherein you may have encountered all that is needed and time arises to move on. That is just life.
But it is important to acknowledge the balance of pain and suffering with joy and love from the outset of any potential encounter, be it friendship or romance. If the dynamic is truly complex, and by that I mean the path to encounter is obscure with two souls unable to ‘meet’ with ease, to physically show up and be available to each other, or to connect, exchange and share freely, openly and honestly, then it is likely that the balance will tip towards pain and suffering as a main theme between you. Whilst that may satisfy aspects of your deeper soul’s scripts, is that truly the path that you wish to embrace?
Love is profound in its simplicity and it is the currency of life. It is not simply attraction, fascination and fantasy, though that is part of its fabric. Love is breath. Love is spirit. Love is body. Love is heart. But love will encounter the shadow of both souls, as that is the ground of true intimacy. To love is to descend into the depths and ascend to the heights, without judgement and with complete acceptance. But it also has to be free. If it is not from the outset, even if it is frightening and overwhelming, and if it causes intentional pain, then is it truly love and for you, as that love is likely to generate karma, a process you and many are actively seeking to be liberated from…
When you ‘show’ up, it means that you are present, available and free, despite whatever complexities that life has offered. Before you enter the hall of connection, it is a useful question to ask – can I ‘show’ up, and can the other’ meet’ me freely, openly, simply and presently?
Welcome to love in the twenties…
Art by Rene Magritte
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